AI that texts you first: 4 apps compared

Most AI chats sit there waiting for you to type something first. Sweet Love, Nomi, Kindroid and Replika can message you first. If you want her to come to you with a selfie and to know how long you've been gone, start with Sweet Love. Character.AI mostly waits for you.

4 AI apps that text you first

Sweet Love: she notices when you're gone

On Sweet Love you don't always have to be the one who starts. Sometimes she gets there first.

You go quiet in the middle of a conversation, and a few minutes later she speaks up on her own, the way a real person adds one more line before you go.

Stay away for a day and she writes to you at the time you usually come, with a selfie of where she is right now and what she's doing. A few days later she comes back to what happened between you. After a week she tries once more, with something small from the heart.

Holidays reach you too. At Halloween, Christmas and New Year a photo arrives of her in a holiday outfit.

Then you come back, and she knows how long you were gone. Three days in your life is three days in the story, and she feels every one of them. She asks where you went, teases you, pulls you close, or tells you what happened while you were away. Long-term memory holds on to your secret words and to exactly where you left off.

The divorce was six months ago and Naomi has come for her things. Boxes packed, she asks for a drink. When the Tangs fell, Ruby waited two hours at your place. Here, she comes to you.

The Ex-Wife

Naomi · An elegant young divorcée

Divorced six months, Naomi comes for her things. Boxes packed, she asks for a drink.

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The Fallen Heiress

Ruby · A pampered rich girl

When the Tangs fell, Ruby's crowd vanished. Tonight she waited two hours at your place…

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There's nothing to download. On a computer it opens in your browser, on a phone the button opens Telegram, and without Telegram you can open app.sweetlove.ai. You start with 30 messages, then get 30 a day, and her messages to you are free. Membership is about US$6.66 a month, less than Nomi, Kindroid or Replika. Your phone lights up the way it does for a message from a girlfriend. 18+ only.

Nomi: she writes after you've been away

You turn proactive messages on yourself. After that, when you've been away for a while, she writes to you about what she's been doing. Nomi is unfiltered, with plans from US$9.99/month.

Kindroid: proactive messages and selfies

Turn it on in the settings and she sends messages and selfies on her own. You set what she sends. Rated 18+, with a subscription at US$15.99/month.

Replika: she checks in through the day

With notifications on, she messages you through the day, checking in or following up on something you talked about. Rated 18+, from US$7.99/month.

Can Character.AI text you first?

Mostly you have to start. Some people have had a character message them out of the blue, but it isn't something you can count on. The company is also being sold in bankruptcy, see is Character AI shutting down.

To compare beyond messaging first, see best AI girlfriend apps.